Well, hasn’t 2020 turned out to be fun? In light of the massive amounts of thoughts constantly racing around my head at the moment, I’ve found myself back on the blog again. Shocking, I know. With the corona virus pandemic playing havoc with the world, we here in Victoria, Australia have found ourselves practicing physical distancing. Well, some of us have. Some are a little slow on the uptake. But given we are now a family of five, finding ourselves all stuck at home for the foreseeable future, I have decided the blog will be a way to keep myself mentally healthy. Hopefully!
I’ve had loads of ideas, and really want to try and reach out and support anyone who may need it, and get support in return! These are difficult, uncharted times, and we will all need some kind of support over the coming months. Whether that be new ideas for the kids, support for you as parents/adults or just some good old fashioned validation that you are doing alright, I hope to provide it here.
I’ve also created a facebook group that you can join, where we can all share tips and support. I know there are loads of different facebook groups that have been created for all different reasons in this new corona age, however I would love to share support and ideas that we have either tried ourselves or plan to try. And even a space to share local or online businesses that are either new or struggling with the physical distancing measures in place now. I know there will be a lot of business that will have already or will be trying to make the move to an online platform, and would love to spotlight them if we can.
Now keep in mind that I’m at home with two school age kids who “go back” to school via remote learning on Wednesday, an almost three year old and husband who is frantically working from home, so I am not sure at this point just how regular my posts will be. I’m hoping that once we get into the school term and work out our routine, it will be clearer then.
In the mean time, please feel free to sign up to the email list, join the FB group or link up on instagram, and let me know how are you all going? I would love to know what your would find useful, are you working, not working? Are your kids home from school?
Stay safe and stay home (if you can!).
Anyone who lives in Australia can’t help but be aware of the commentary this week surrounding AFL player Adam Goodes and racism. It’s been an issue brewing for some time, and it boiled over this week into a seemingly unstoppable flood of outrage, denial, anger and hurt. For most of the week I’ve listened to and read a lot of people’s opinions. I’ve felt a rising sense of frustration and disbelief. I’ve nearly called ABC 774 several times! I’ve never called radio talk back! Frankly, the only thing stopping me calling in has been the two small children yelling for my attention every 2.3 seconds!
I’ve had a page of notes on my phone and my computer, waiting for me to form into a coherent post. And then yesterday, I decided to email my club, the North Melbourne Kangaroos. I wanted to know what they were going to do to support Adam Goodes. I’m a paid member, so I wanted to know. I intended to write a quick email, just to find out if anything was planned. But it became longer, as I explained why I was so concerned. And it clarified to me just why I have been so upset by the lack of respect shown to Adam Goodes. By the apparent intelligent people I know who have so easily dismissed him as a ‘sook’, as ‘thin skinned’. As someone who needs to ‘man up’. It’s for my children. It frightens me, that in this day and age, our country still struggles to address this issue, to discuss the matter in a mature fashion. So this is what I wrote to the club:
I wanted to contact the club today regarding Adam Goodes. I have become increasingly upset and I have to say angry at the way he has been treated. As a paying member of NMFC I was wondering if the club was planning or talking about ways to show support for Adam Goodes?
The current commentary and fan reaction to Adam has made me feel angry and upset, because it makes me question – can I take my small kids to live matches, when this behaviour is accepted and apparently encouraged (by ex-players saying he is a ‘sook’ etc). I want my kids to feel that AFL is a community that they will feel safe in, that they will feel AFL will give them opportunities, joy and a sense of team. I do not want them to learn that bullying is ‘normal’, that racism is normal or that men cannot express feelings or discuss matters that are emotionally important to them.
I really did not know where else to express this opinion at this point, but I figured as a member of NMFC I could start here.
I love this game, I love this club. I do not love this concerted campaign against one of the greatest players we have.
I’m pleased to say they got back to me really quickly, explaining that they were finalising plans and would be updating fans soon.
Today, I have felt slightly less upset by this, and a little more hopeful. Of course, some actual leadership by our politicians would be nice, but let’s not hold our breath for miracles. But perhaps now, this is a tipping point into a discussion that we need to have. Perhaps this will be a catalyst for broader understanding and acceptance. Let’s just hope we haven’t let an outstanding leader, advocate and person be broken in the process.
My heart has been heavy these last few days. It aches for the mothers of Andrew Chan and Myuran Sukumaran and the other inmates who faced the firing squad with them. For all the mothers, the fathers, the families of those waiting on death row around this world. What a terrible, despairing wait that must be.
I’m well aware that there are so, so many awful events happening at this time. The rising toll in Nepal. The rising toll of women being murdered because they are women. Riots in Baltimore. The thing is, it seems I can have an opinion, thoughts and feelings on more than one topic at a time. One tragedy does not negate another.
The thing about capital punishment is, that it’s not a deterrent – and that is not just me saying that. Amnesty International conducted research into this. And look at the ABC’s Fact Checker. So then, is it punishment? They’ve already been punished, by their prison sentence. They could be sentenced to a life term. Why rehabilitate just to kill them? It makes it feel like revenge to me. Like making a nasty point.
What about a second chance, learning? We all make mistakes, especially when we’re young. And aren’t I lucky to have made minor mistakes when I was young. Aren’t I lucky to have had the support system in place so that I wasn’t in a situation where I could make such a mistake? Aren’t I lucky that I haven’t fallen through a crack, stumbled at the wrong time. There but for the grace of god…….
There was a tweet from one of our politicians, and I cannot find it now, but it basically said that capital punishment is a gross abuse of state power. Who are ‘we’ to take life? Why should others be made to do it on our behalf?
Shouldn’t society or the community take the responsibility for the failures that result in these young people making these mistakes, ending up in these situations? Killing them is not taking responsibility. Killing them seems like shirking that responsibility.
It is a regressive act and gains nothing. Keeping these men alive, in jail, where they could educate, heal and even save others would have been far more beneficial to the community. Killing them only means that now, they aren’t there. Fellow inmates can’t learn from them. They won’t be able to speak to others anymore. And it won’t stop others. Especially those in desperate times. Those who feel they have no choice. Those who feel trapped, threatened, alone.
I’m not talking about not punishing. It’s about being the better person. Taking the ‘higher ground’. Remembering they are human beings. Developing and demonstrating a moral and ethical choice to those that we are responsible for. I’m not saying that it’s easy. Terrible crimes need to have consequences. There does need to be an element of punishment, deterrent and rehabilitation involved. But adding more dead bodies and destroying more families.
How does that help?
Did you know, that in Australia each year 260 children die and 58,000 children are hospitalized from accidental injuries? These are big numbers! Would you know how to help a child who was unconscious and not breathing? That’s what the people at KidzAid want to know. I have vague memories of my first aid training, pre-children, and I keep putting a paediatric first aid course on my to-do list. I still haven’t completed one.
Here are some more stats for you. For every minute that CPR is not performed when needed, the chance of the child’s survival decreases by 10%. After 4 minutes without oxygen, your child can suffer irreversible brain damage. That’s scary stuff. So basically, what happens in the first five minutes holds the key to saving their life. Five minutes is not enough time to allow professional help to arrive.
We therefore need more people of all ages who are trained and willing to provide immediate CPR to our kids, while waiting for help to arrive. And that’s where KidZaid Paediatric First Aid Training comes in. And to highlight the issue, and raise funds for the Royal Children’s Hospital Good Friday Appeal, the KidZaid team will convert the Palladium at Crown Melbourne into a large training centre, and offer training to parents and families, and break a world record at the same time! There will family fun day activities; celebrity CPR challenges, jumping castles, roving princesses and superheroes, toddler playzone and more.
We’ll be there – it should be a great day! We’ve never gone into the city on Good Friday and with all the family oriented activities happening with the Good Friday Appeal, it should be a really fun day. And I’m so pleased this opportunity to learn paediatric first aid has arisen, and in a way that provides support to the excellent Royal Children’s Hospital.
Details: Entry is free, with a $5 registration fee to complete the CPR training (all proceeds to the Good Friday Appeal). To make this even easier, there is a special $15 family CPR registration price, that allows parents to take advantage of the opportunity to have all the important adults in their child’s life trained for one low cost. Training sessions will run hourly throughout the day and to secure your spot, register today at www.cprchallenge.com.au. Check out the website for more information and follow along with the CPR Challenge on facebook, & twitter.
Tell me, have you completed a paediatric first aid training? Is it up-to-date? Are you going to attend the CPR Challenge?
What’s your skin care regime? Do you have one? Is it comprehensive and regular or sporadic, like when you actually get to have a shower and the shampoo accidentally runs down your face? Hmmm, since having my second bub, I must say it has been more toward the latter. However recently, probably due to said second bub not having slept through a night for most of his 20 months, I’ve thought perhaps I could do with a bit more effort in the skin care department.
And I don’t mean all the “look 10 years younger”, “get rid of your wrinkles”, women shouldn’t age shit. I just mean, man my skin is red and/or itchy sometimes and often dry when it never used to be. I don’t want to look 10 years younger, but I wouldn’t mind looking my age, and not 10 years older 🙂
Then I came across an opportunity to trial and review the Ultra Rich Anti-aging Moisturiser from Rubifresh. Mmmmmm, it’s lovely. It smells like a spa moisturiser. Yep, awesome. And it feels just lovely – I use it at night, and I wake up with soft skin, that doesn’t feel red and itchy. Nice. It’s smooth and creamy and feels lovely. Frankly, it’s a little bit of luxury in the crazy toddler world I inhabit at the moment 🙂
Rubifresh also do skincare workshops – in your home, the office or as a fundraising event. Check out their page here. They have lots of other products as well. Another bonus, the Rubifresh products are 100% natural and organic, they use minimal packaging, as many recyclables as they can and are not tested on animals. They’re also Australian made. So it ticks a lot of boxes.
So tell me – what’s your skin care regime? Any tips for a mum who barely remembers what a straight run of good sleep feels like, and needs to care for their skin?! Leave your comments on this post!!!
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They melt my heart. We’ve had a bit of a rough fortnight here. Colds, conjunctivitis, teething, upset tummies and lots of little kids parties. It all amounts to tired toddlers and ratty parents. Perhaps even the other way around.
Blocked noses and bubba’s who suck their thumbs, do not equal good sleep. Mr 15 months had just worked out the sleeping through the night thing, when wham! Blocked nose, cold, conjunctivitis and a back tooth trying to come through all happened at once. Urgh. So one night, when I had settled him back to sleep for the fourth time, all before 3am, Ms 3 woke up and wanted me to come into her room. Usually she comes into our bed and goes to sleep. But the Mister was also sick, and this just wasn’t working.
So in I trudge, thinking I was never going to see sleep again. She lay there, looking up at me as I sat down, then she patted the pillow and said “you want to lie down with me?”. Heart melted. Thoughts of sleep no longer matter. God I love her. She is so adorable. Then she says “can you sing me a beautiful song to help me sleep?” Good lord. Cuteness overload. I don’t really sing, it’s not that soothing really, but she requested twinkle twinkle, so I sang that and she nearly fell asleep. Wow, this might be a winner I thought. Her eyes popped open and she smiled at me again. “Lie down a little bit mummy.” Ok. Why not. An hour later she finally fell asleep and I went back to my bed. Not caring one jot that it was only an hour and half before I was likely to be woken again.
It’s the little things sometimes, that make parenting so worth it.